Bloody Martians.
Men.
They always say that us women are so confusing, we’re doing their heads in.
But time has evolved, and it has long passed the time since women used to say ‘yes’ when what they really mean is ‘no’ and vice versa. Like the boy who screams wolf, we’re getting tired and on the verge of giving up from trying to keep up playing the dating game and the confusing rules that seem to create misunderstandings and counterproductive behaviors.
From “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” to “What Men Won’t Tell You but Women Need to Know” and “He’s Just Not That Into You – The No Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys” – we’ve ravished any books about men and relationships, trying to figure out what the opposite sex are really thinking about and how to actually connect with the ways they are thinking.
And still, with that many amount of books available on the self-help/relationships aisle, we are still as lost as we were before. Don’t get me wrong, those books are fantastic. So fantastic, in fact, with the many different theories and methods and so-called ‘ways’ to read men’s mind, we really don’t know which ones are the absolute truth and which ones are complete bollocks.
For example; you’ve been dating a guy for about a couple of weeks and his behavior starts to wear off – he rarely calls and suddenly you’re the one who’s doing all the attempt while being in a total frenzy because what used to be so interesting and sparkly is suspiciously turning stale and losing its charm.
Now according to Dr.Gray of Mars and Venus book, he might be retreating to his ‘cave’. But Greg Behrendt of “He’s Just Not That Into You” will just cut to the chase and say, godammit, he’s just not that into you!
The real question that I want to ask is; why is it so hard for us to find the truth straight from the horse’s mouth itself?
I’d tried the no-bullshit attitude with the last guy I went out with – notice the use of past tense there – and look how well that turned out! I was being totally honest with what I felt and I didn’t play any of the dating-game rules and he couldn’t hack it.
Suddenly I felt like I was lost in a world where even the simplest form of communication just won’t do. Even though God had created us with the ability to speak and listen, apparently, these are still insufficient that we need to accommodate ourselves further with sequences after sequences of inexplicable manners and conducts.
My friend Sylvie told me that maybe I’m like one of those K-k-k-Katie girls that Carrie from Sex and The City has declared; “Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they’re supposed to run wild until they find someone – just as wild – to run with.”
Maybe I will find someone who just cannot be as bothered as I am to do the whole dating war and commands bullshit, and maybe I won’t. As much as I hate to admit it, it makes me feel rather lonely thinking about it – the fact that this guy might or might not turn up. Time keeps rolling and I’m not getting any younger and I wonder whether there really is someone out there with whom I can communicate in the most uncomplicated ways that God had intend us to do in the first place.
That, though, is for me – and the rest of the other Katies – to find out.
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Gilaaaa…don’t give up, never give up, ever, ever.
It’s just the wrong guy, wrong time, wrong place. Perhaps one day you will find the right guy, right time and right place. Just be patient. Orang sabar disayang Tuhan (cliche abizzzz). And there will be more than ONE of the right guy, right place, right time. Who knows, maybe he’s already there, but you just don’t know it yet.
amen to that sista!!!!!
Hmmm…slightly more worried now…how would I know if I’m in for the right guy, right time and the right place?
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u’ve got one now sist!!! Happy for you