Marriage: Case Studies

Case #1:
A wife, a husband and a son.

The wife is a busy career woman with the position of a manager in growing company who works fourteen hours a day and only sees her son mostly during the weekend.

The husband holds a top position in a pharmaceutical company and works in Nigeria for three years to supply the family’s finance so that his wife and son could live a better life.

Wife chooses job over son.
Wife chooses financial security over husband’s presence.

Husband chooses job over his presence next to his wife.
Husband chooses money over seeing the growth of his son.
Husband chooses son over wife. Love priority switches.

Wife gives snide comments whenever there’s a successful woman who is past thirty and is not married. And yet her situation is actually worse.

Here is a married life with no husband and no time to take care of her son.
Here is a married life where the wife prefers financial security over husband’s presence for her.
Here is a married life where the husband and wife agrees that their union together doesn’t mean anything when it comes down to money.
Here is a married life where, frankly said, it could be just any man to support the wife, so long as he can finance the family, because it doesn’t matter whether the man is there for them, what matters is what the man can give.
Here is a married life where the husband and wife agrees that their love priority has switched down to their son, and that what they used to have between each other no longer exist.

I wonder whether they ever ask themselves if the whole thing is worth it.
I wonder whether the wedding vow that they’d proclaimed to each other [to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part] mean anything at all.

Case #2:

Newlyweds.

Wife feels sad every now and then but doesn’t know why.
Wife feels more insecure than before despite the fact that they just got married.

Husband is confused about wife’s insecure feelings.
Husband advises single friends not to get married.

I wonder whether trust means anything in this marriage. I wonder whether trust means anything in any marriage at all.

Trust that they would make each other happy.
Trust that they would be there for each other no matter what the circumstances are.
Trust that they are meant for each other and that emptiness is no longer.
Trust that when a man and a woman come together in a holy matrimony, they are no longer two in the eyes of God, but they are united as one.

“Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
If a man and a woman fail to acknowledge the meaning of this simple phrase, then they have failed to realize the purpose of marriage.