Do You Believe In Soulmates?

Those who were either in a long, steady relationship or married were rather uncomfortable upon hearing the very question when directed to them.

Some people who were curious about my relationship were more taken aback when I told them how it all happened. They seemed to think those sorts of stuff only happened in movies, or we either made it up because we were pulling a prank on them.

I think I tire myself down whenever people ask me about it and I have to keep retelling the same story and they will not believe me when I bandy the words like “soulmates” or “my other half”.

It is typical of them to response;

“How do you know that you’re soulmates?”

“I don’t believe in it. Relationship is hard. It’s all about give and take. Things don’t just happen just like that”

“There’s no way that you don’t dislike any single thing about him. Come on, there’s gotta be something. It’s just not realistic.”

I find it appalling that so many people look into relationships in such a negative and complicated way. That when it comes to having a great relationship they must work so hard and learn to understand each other by reading self-help books about Men from Mars and Women from Venus, compromising the needs and accepting the strengths and weaknesses of each other, tolerating and giving more until there is nothing left.

What appalled me more was that I used to be one of them. And in just a matter of a few precious hours, I was turned a hundred and eighty degrees, as if God was saying to me, “Lookie here, you’ve been traveling the wrong path but now I’m setting you straight. Go forth and tell the others that it is so. It is not too late for them to believe again.”

I know how unsettling it must be when you’re with a partner and as time rolls by, disappointments come and go, realization hit you hard and you find out on your own terms that relationship is a struggle to keep and you’re wondering whether it will get any easier. It breaks my heart to see that even those who are already in a relationship are still feeling empty and lost, and rather than finding the answer to their partners, they turn the other way and behaving as if their partners are strangers who must be studied and understood.

I feel even sorrier for those who are in the search of The One; it seems that it is such a difficult and tremendously time-consuming activity that wears people down because the whole idea of meeting The One is so close to impossible that they usually settle for the next best thing.

Impatience, desperation, the feeling that they’re not getting any younger and pressure from families are what usually driving them to just settle with any one who is good enough, and ignore the most important factor of all; That the person they are settling down with is probably not The One, and the problems that might arise in the future are well ignored and brushed away because they tend to not want to deal with what cannot be seen.

I wish people would have just a little bit more faith and belief that there is someone out there who is made exactly for them, and that by all means, relationship shouldn’t be that hard. I wish people would not just swallow in all the brainwashing thoughts the modern dating world has created for them, because rather than making it easier, it actually goes the other way around.

Just a little bit of faith. That’s all it takes. A little bit of faith that you’re not alone in this world.

That somewhere out there, a person who is your other half, exists and is made for you, waiting for you to believe in them too.