Stupid Things I’ve heard
#1 “You never know where his eyes will wander when you’re not around. Men just can’t be trusted.”
This was coming from a girl who was in a four-year relationship with her boyfriend and was planning to get married. I feel sorry … for her boyfriend. That poor guy would be tied down forever with a woman who had no confidence on herself, let alone on other people.
#2 “It’s better for him to love you more, not the other way around.”
I’m not against this sentence - everyone is entitled to their own opinions - but I don’t think love is something that you can weigh and measure in more or lesser way. Moreover, I sense that people who say things like this is actually insecure about their own self-worth that they will not trust their heart to anyone at all.
#3 “Relationship is complicated.”
No, it’s not. If it is, it’s because you’re with the wrong person. Expect nothing but the best. Don’t settle for second-best. The more people say those words, the more they believe it’s true. Read “He’s Just Not That Into You” by Greg Behrendt and stick by it.
#4 “When married couples have children, it is natural for the father to end up loving the children more than he loves his wife.”
It baffles me that love between two people who made vows to be hold forever, till death do them apart, could be switched onto another person in a matter of months. If this is in fact, the natural thing to do, then every mother in the world is nothing but womb donors.
