Stupid Things I’ve heard
#1 “You never know where his eyes will wander when you’re not around. Men just can’t be trusted.”
This was coming from a girl who was in a four-year relationship with her boyfriend and was planning to get married. I feel sorry … for her boyfriend. That poor guy would be tied down forever with a woman who had no confidence on herself, let alone on other people.
#2 “It’s better for him to love you more, not the other way around.”
I’m not against this sentence – everyone is entitled to their own opinions – but I don’t think love is something that you can weigh and measure in more or lesser way. Moreover, I sense that people who say things like this is actually insecure about their own self-worth that they will not trust their heart to anyone at all.
#3 “Relationship is complicated.”
No, it’s not. If it is, it’s because you’re with the wrong person. Expect nothing but the best. Don’t settle for second-best. The more people say those words, the more they believe it’s true. Read “He’s Just Not That Into You” by Greg Behrendt and stick by it.
#4 “When married couples have children, it is natural for the father to end up loving the children more than he loves his wife.”
It baffles me that love between two people who made vows to be hold forever, till death do them apart, could be switched onto another person in a matter of months. If this is in fact, the natural thing to do, then every mother in the world is nothing but womb donors.
4 comments
wow bener2 masuk di hatiku nih!!
I used to think #2 and #3
I think complexity in relationship, which is problems, is the process to get to know deeper to each other. i mean problems are complex, but if they’re solved, somehow you and ur partner become closer.. hmm stuju nggak?
Hehehe… but if you are already having so many problems in the beginning, how can you fix the bigger ones, the more complicated ones that you will face later when you get married?
I have a friend who was already unhappy when she was engaged, and yet she continued to marry the man because she wanted to give it a try. I think to this day she still feels lonely
i dont want to take wrong decision — to marry the wrong guy.
iya sih kalo dari awal udah banyak masalah….. ga mau liat deh kedepannya gimana..
this is what im facing now,
how strong could I be..?!
Don’t be scared to think that you deserve better because you do. Don’t ever settle for second best, because you will always wonder for the rest of your life about what could have been if you took the other path.
And always believe that there is someone out there who is the best for you, you just have to believe in it