Parental Crime – Mummy dearest
So I was in Aksara bookshop in Plaza
Wait a minute.
Two nannies? For one child? Jayzuz, woman. I know you are rich, but two nannies? Come on. What, do you need one for feeding and the other one to clean up all the mess afterwards? And what do you do when those two girls are busy taking care of your child? Just stand there looking good and relieved for not having baby puke all over your Marc Jacobs?
Whatever happened to good parenting? How can these people think that it’s okay to give birth and hand over the responsibility to someone else(s)? And don’t give me that crap about the pain of labor – they all have Caesarean. I just know it. If they can’t even take the responsibility to look after their own offspring, I doubt they can actually bear the pain of delivering their child the natural way.
I’ve been noticing this Nanny Thing everywhere I go. Mostly in huge luxury shopping malls, where the mother will be engrossed flicking through hangers after hangers of clothes while the nanny is busy struggling to wipe melted ice-cream from the toddler’s chin. And you’d be surprised to know that there are children as old as ten who are still accompanied by their nannies.
When I was ten, I was perfectly able to wash my own hands – and chin – in the sink. When I was thirteen, I knew how to wash, iron and fold my own clothes. My mammy taught me well. I remember how she used to put the guilt on me whenever I did something not to her liking, in which she would say something like, “How could you do this to your poor mother? I gave you the gift of life! I raised you since you were a baby, with my own bare hands! I fed you and took care of you, woke up in the middle of the nights for you and having puked up and pooped all over, and this is how you repay me?”
Understandably but quite annoyingly, mothers have the rights to say those things, because they sacrificed so much for us. That’s why we are more prone to guilt on mothers, because they are the ones who spend the most time with us since we were born. While our fathers generally would be the breadwinner, the mothers were the ones waking up at one, three and four in the evening, feeding us, singing lullabies for us and be the last face we saw when we went to sleep.
But now all those roles are simply replaced by the presence of nannies – of whom unfortunately the child would feel more secure with, and thus come the worrying feeling of the mothers that they are unrecognizable to their own children because of the lack of time they are willing to spend.
I’ve seen it happen. I even have friends who expressed the very same fear to me. Therefore, I am thoroughly unsurprised to find that these children will, in the future, grow up to be selfish, spoilt brat who thinks that the world owes them something. Why? Because they are raised with the notion that must have everything they want, which is evident by the parents who, in making up their lack of time spending with their children, alternate to lavishing them with junks that cost more than the monthly salary of an average nanny.
Thinking back on the daughter and the parents with the two nannies I saw at the bookstore, I can just imagine the future daily conversation that this mother and daughter will have;
“Annabelle, finish your meal, dear.”
“No, it’s foul. I hate Brussels sprouts. I’ve told you that, like, a gazillion times (sneering).”
“(Bored and slightly pissed off) Behave. Now finish your meal and do your homework.”
“No! Just leave me alone! (Cutlery clatters)”
“(gasp and enraged with pre-menopausal hormones) How dare you speak like that to me??? I. Am. Your. Mother! I raised you since you were a child. I fed you-No. Wait a minute. I didn’t. Your nanny fed you. Well, I cleaned up all your messes since you were in diapers-No. (Faltering) Actually, I didn’t. Ok. This conversation never happens.”
7 comments
well dah-link…suster satu lagi buat gantiin kalo yang satu lagi cape…..
mygod…….and that’s real by the way….coz i asked. one can make you wonder, “is that a child or a monster??”
saw the 2 nannies too…roommie and i wondered what the hell has this world gone into
So lemme get this straight. Two nannies is for if the other one is tired. If the job of being a mother is so taxing, then how did those who have no nannies at all, do it? Hmmmmmmmmm…
I reckon these rich mummies are just given the frightener by their friends who couldn’t hack the fact of being a mother so they told each other: “It’s HORRIBLE. You’d HAVE to get 2 nannies. I couldn’t cope. At. All.”
It’s so that they don’t look bad on their own, see. Cuz everybody does it?
Well the world, apparently, will be filled with monsters as soon as these kids grow up hehehehe
Well.. i’m in the children’s biz so.. I know a lot of these bizarre arrangement.
I have students who have 2 nannies, which are almost normal nowadays. I also have children who never saw their parents coz both parents are so busy working. I also have students who behaved so badly coz his parents and entire family basically ignored him except his driver.
What the!!
and you wonder why children nowadays turn into monsters…do you think it’s because nobody has ever said no to them? i know nannies won’t say no to the kids. i mean…
kid: MOM! the nanny punishes me for talking back to her! she sent me to the corner!!
mother: OMG, that is so unacceptable! fire her and let’s find a new one!
i thought nanny, like maid, is supposed to HELP the mom to take care of the child…not to replace her.
cn: Yeah, and the parents feel bad if the children are scorned by the nannies for being naughty but they cant say anything to make up the lost time they dont spend with their kids. That’s crazy!!!!
syl: at least when those kids are under ur care they are in good hands. I feel SO sorry for the kids whose parents dont spend time with. Why have kids when theyre not there to be around in the 1st place? I thought the thrill of having kids is all about seeing them grow up. Or something
…or something is right hehehehe
i read it in cosmo, nowadays, kids are like the new accessories..it’s a new trend to have babies. i guess the mommies forgot that babies grow up and stay in your life huh???
yeah even celebrities insist on carrying their babies themselves (hellooo…angelina jolie? and kate moss?), i dont think they’re too keen on using prams.
people shouldn’t be allowed to have kids until they are fully responsible for it! there should be some kind of school or something for them..it’s so selfish to want to have a child b/c they just HAVE to have them..