Love and Marriage, Horse and Carriage

Sinatra wasn’t fooling around when he was singing that song. There are very few people in this world who are only having either one of the elements; You can’t say you’re in love and not wanting to get married. You also can’t say you want to get married and not be in love to the person you’re marrying.

when two people are in love and everything feels right, what is left to expect from them but the celebration of tying them together in a form of marriage? It’s a legal institution that is the dream of most women – and the dread of most men – in the world, and the mystery which holds the entire universe together.

But is it wrong, however, for two people who are in love to not want to get married simply because they cannot see the importance of it?

If then someone responses, “But marriage gives you the security that unmarried couples don’t have!”, does it mean that people who get married are in fact feeling insecured about their relationships that they feel the need to tie it into a bond that can only be broken by divorce?

If then someone also responses, “But if you don’t get married you will be alienated by the society and the rest of your family because it’s simply unacceptable and out of the norm to want to be together forever and yet not married to each other,” does it mean that people who are already married and end up having affairs are more acceptable than those who chose not to get married but remain to be faithful to each other?

If then someone responses yet again, “But don’t you want to declare your love to the whole world?”, does it mean that those who believe that being in a relationship only involves the very two people in it are in fact, mistaken and that it is more acceptable for mothers or fathers-in-laws to interfere about their children’s marriage and let the mistake from their forefathers continues on for the next seventh generation?

And if then someone finally responses, “But don’t you want to make your parents happy and give them the peace of mind knowing that you are in a legal relationship with your partner?”, does it mean that parents earn the rights to be given the peace of mind but the children are not given the same priviledge?

Can’t the world just accept the fact that marriage is no longer a sacred thing because so many people have abused and misused its meaning?

You don’t get married to feel more secure.

You don’t get married because you want to have sex everyday.

You don’t get married to keep your husband on the leash, as what most women tend to think.

You don’t get married because you need to upgrade your social status.

You don’t get married because the world thinks you’re too old not to be married.

You don’t get married to make your parents happy.

You don’t get married because you are worried that it might not happen at all if you keep delaying it – as what some people always say.

You also don’t get married because you think it will make your love stronger – it either is or isn’t.

If it is, in fact, one of the most important phases of people’s lives, then why do I rarely see it giving the happiness that they so deserve out of it?