What’s So Great About Being a Bride

Because you can justify your rants to your husband-to-be as a way to deal with your stress?

You mean when the brides turn into bridezillas? LOL…

I really dont know. I didn’t feel great being a bride but that’s probably because I really don’t care about these things, couldn’t be bothered by it. I don’t understand girls who are obsessed with it either.

I care about my own wedding day but not so much to the point where it will drive me nuts. Most people get so carried away in the little details they forget about the important ones.

For example, Indonesians go nuts over the souvenirs/thank-you gifts, the invitations (the thicker and more elaborate, the better, despite them ending up in the rubbish bins anyway!), the decorations, the video intro that plays as the newlyweds walk along the aisle to their throne during the reception (yes, people do this shit) etc., etc.

Girls are obsessed with the concept of their wedding day, because most of them are raised with the idea of getting married as the be-all and end-all.

Well, for someone who’s on an 8 figure salary they may beg to differ. But personally I never would spend that much as there are more important things like a house deposit and necessities. A simple, basic Register Office ceremony for close family and a simple reception will do.

Exactly what I’m talking about I don’t think an eight figure salary can still cover an extravagant wedding reception being held at the Ritz-Carlton! LOL

Totally agree with Woelank, especially in certain cultures (Javanese, Batak, Padang etc.).

The whole fuss around being a bride could drive you crazy!!! Not only it is generally expected that the bride should be radiant at the big day (countless visits to a beauty salon, following a diet), but she’s also the one who suppossedly arranges everything. The consequence of this all it a stressed bride to be, turned Bridezilla.

Keep your head cool girl. Just do what you & your fiancé love to do!

Yep, my fiance and I already have the same idea on what kind of wedding do we want. I think all we need is a very good wedding planner/organizer to make it into reality

Radiant? Damn. What’s a facial? I think I’ve only had one of those about twice in my entire life. I’m thinking about working out and tone up my body so that I will actually look fit in my wedding gown (as opposed to dieting because I like to eat and that aint’ a crime)…

I cannot believe I am talking about weddings and wedding gowns now. I seriously thought that day would never come. LOL

I think this post can be linked to mine in a sense that they care so much about showing off their, I don’t know, wealth, beauty, success (?) they forget the essence of the whole thing.

One thing I never understand from the bridal magazines is 80% of the pages are filled with…. bridal gowns! I mean I do really want to throw a nice party but usually they only put one or two articles about it.

Second thing is, some choose PINK as their party theme. Do you think any sane guys would wear pink tie? He’d be mocked forever by his friends. So it must be the bride who decides, and where’s the groom’s voice in this then?

I’m with you with the bouquet throwing thing. Even when I was single I never wanted to line up to catch it and hope I’d be the next bride, ugh, nauseating! I like the idea of giving the bouquet to the couple who has the longest marriage (grandma & grandpa?), which I think is more meaningful.

And yes, EVERYBODY should have a good time in the party, especially our VIP friends. So if bridesmaids can’t enjoy the party, there must be something wrong with it.

So am I expecting an invite?

Well, I would love to see MORE bridal gowns in the recent bridal magazine that I purchased – there were too many unecessary pages of wedding photographers and their portfolios (some are just plain stupid and silly, showing the bride flying like she was in Hidden Tiger Crouching Dragon movie set) and wedding venues (most were indoors, with ice carvings, gah!).

But you’re right – there aren’t enough articles about party ideas, especially for those who want to keep it on the down low.

Uhm… the groom usually just leaves the whole thing up to the bride – and regret it later on when the bride turns into a bridezilla LOL. For men, being involved in a wedding preparation is similar to being dragged into a nightmarish shopping experience where the girl keeps on asking “Is this nice?” or “Will this make my ass look big?”

That bouquet thing was nothing compared to the grilling days my friend had made me endured – she asked us to be bridesmaid and yet two-weeks prior to the day she hadn’t decided whether we should buy our own dresses or whether she’d provide us with. In the end she got us dresses but none of them looked good so we ended up going to the shop and picked the ones that we preferred (she chose for me a red one with a big bow on the stomach, I could not walk around with that thing).

At the end of the night when said our goodbyes (she’d be moving overseas where her husband lived), she said, “I can’t kiss you goodbye because it will ruin my make up.” And I thought, “Err… okay.”

Sigh.

Jadi curhat gini LOL. Well, all in all the whole thing pretty much put me off weddings and being a bridesmaid. I don’t think I’ll even have them when I get married – nobody enjoys being one!

So what’s so great about being a bride? <<< It’ll only be great if you’ll end up marrying what Disney describes as your “true heart’s dream”.

That’s nice That task is already marked done, and I think I can pretty much get on with my life now… but wait. Apparently finding one’s true heart’s dream need affirmation and confirmation as well as legalisation for the sake of other people who are not even involved with us, the couple!

so when is the bloody wedding??

it better be at the same time i’m in indo, or else! lol

Uhm… sometime next year. Maybe. You better be prepared by then! I’m gonna have you singing “LOVE” at my wedding day

What about Las vegas style, less than 10 minutes, and cost about 300 dollar. I would have chosen that for sure.

With an Elvis-lookalike as the priest right? Hmm. Nah, too cheesy It’ll be like that Chuck and Larry movie where I’ll have to pick a street drunkard as my witness he3x.

Hua..ha… thanks for scanning the page, but that weddding rings pic is just hilarious!

When all gets a bit too nutty, try to keep things in perspective Ther. I was in tears a couple of times in the months leading up to my wedding too. As long as your folks/in-laws are paying for it, then let them go bananas. All this commotion and the stress involved in being a bride-to-be who has to accommodate the demands from your parents, in-laws, extended relies, neighbours, etc etc…. are just a small price to pay so you can finally have regular sex be with the love of your life. He..he…

I reckon the first picture is more hilarious – those girls’ responses are beyond! LOL

Letting my parents pay for it? That would disaster Katz! They will take over everything! Even worse, they will want the wedding to suit their taste, not mine (that’s like comparing Old Spice with Ralph Lauren Romance). Actually I’ve thought about not involving a lot of people – just those who really have to be, like my parents and my parents-in-law

I wonder if that’s possible….

I went against the mainstream on my wedding .. the whole affair cost less than USD 2,000, rings, food, tent, photos, band included. No studio photos taken. I did buy the dress though (let’s not discuss how much it cost). I was the cheapest bride in the whole North Sumatra. I think that’s one of the reason why no magazines came to cover it … LOL.

Less than $2000?? Care to share the details?
I’m after a simple dress that doesn’t drag down on the floor ten miles away (I hate those types), just a simple, minimalist and well-cut design. The wedding gowns being shown at local bridal magazines are too elaborate for me. How come they don’t do simple and nice designs like in the US or something?

So where did you get your gown? *wink*

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