Life After Marriage
Till death do us apart.
It’s pretty much the same for me, I’m afraid.
Both hubby and I find no significant difference whatsoever to our lives, except the change of status.
We’ve been together for four years before we decided to get married and lived together for two years, so there were no so-called ‘surprises’ of the things newly-weds usually discover in their post-marriage lives; like:
I’ve gotten used to them and even domesticated my husband (who doesn’t?) up to the point where I don’t even notice them anymore. I’d still nag and remind him (gently) if he forgets or being naughty (no, I’m not talking about Micah), but I don’t make it such a big deal anymore.
That’s right. I used to. When we first started living together, it was quite tough. We had major fights about the littlest things; including the ones mentioned above. But it is expected, and when two people live together, two different habits and lifestyle will have to cooperate and coexist together.
Even hubby said it was difficult for him; he was so used to living the bachelor life, it was hard being told to do things when before he was free to do whatever he liked. It was also hard for me to live with him at first, because he was one of those normal guys who woke up before 12 pm on the weekends, and seeing me sleep-in after such hour annoyed the crap out of him, he simply had to wake me up.
But now, instead of having individual habits, both of us form new habits; like:
lying down on the bed in the evening, after coming back from work, with our work clothes on the floor (not because we just have a rampant sex; well, not usually) and Micah sleeping on it,
talking about random things and even tell funny stuff to each other while lying in bed (yes, we use our bed for a lot of things, not just sleep and sex) in complete darkness before we go to sleep,
watching our favorite show together without having to say anything and just completely chill,bed-napping on the weekends with Micah (since it’s the weekend, he gets special privilege),
going out for a nice dinner every weekend to our favorite restaurant, get new movies and watch them together,
giving massages to each other (not in a sexual way, mind you), and
showering together (also not in a sexual way, surprisingly, but more for efficiency).
Briefly said, we’re just like any other normal, boring married couple everywhere.
But come to think of it now, I can’t imagine what life was like before we were together.
With all the stuff we’ve gone through together, being with him is the best feeling in the world.
And the dry-humping… well, it’s not so bad, especially if it comes together with lots of kisses and hugs.
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ooo…jadi begini toh kehidupan newly weds…:)
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But of course mine is slightly different because we’ve lived together before, Boy. For those who don’t – just be prepared for some adjustment. It’s gonna happen, no matter how well you and your partner might click
Two different people will never become one. The way it works is that the two different people make life better and worth living. Congratulations.
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@Parvita: Agree! Thanks Vit
That’s awesome! I strongly believe in living together now although it’s a hard one to practice being here in Jakarta. Congrats, girly!
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lol I almost replied with @Maureen… tweet much?!
Yes, living together before marriage is not easy but my parents are (surprisingly) very supportive about it.. that or they pretty much couldn’t do anything to stop me
I don’t get why people say, “Living together before marriage will jeopardize your plan to get married.”
If the couple decide not to carry on with their marriage it means the relationship is not strong enough to begin with.
Any couple no matter how good they get along together with, will need adjustments once they start living together. If they can’t even get through that phase it means they don’t really belong together! And isn’t great to just nip in the bud rather than actually get married and find out that you can’t get along with your husband? Terrible! lol
Udah lama banget ga blogwalking… KAGET waktu buka web mu.. BAGUS benerrrr… ♥
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